第127課: Honorifics IV: Regular Verbs

  Most Japanese think they're all equal. Nevertheless, the language still places heavy emphasis on choosing the correct register to address others.  敬語 makes oneself look more educated and better when used appropriately. Always consider the listener's position versus that of your own

Everyone has trouble with 敬語 including Japanese people. Many honorific phrases are old-fashioned, but that shouldn't downplay the importance of 敬語. Interesting phenomenons today include "Xになります" instead of "Xでございます". The first is traditionally incorrect. However, it is so common now that it is here to stay.

So, what kind of expressions are in 敬語? As you should know by now, 敬語 is usually split up into three kinds: 尊敬語 (respectful speech), 謙譲語・謙遜語 (humble speech), and 丁寧語 (polite speech). However, there are other phrases based off words and phrases found in 敬語 that serve the opposite purpose of being rude. This can be very complicated, but we will look at some examples as to how that can be the case.  

 Type Object of Respect Type of respect? Subject of Action 例文
 尊敬語 相手 Yes 相手 部長が話し下さい
 謙譲語 自分 No 自分 私が話しします
 丁寧語 聞き手 Yes X こちらにペンがございます
 尊大語 自分 Yes* 自分 俺が言ってやろう!
 軽蔑語 相手 No 相手 早くしやがれ

*: To yourself, which is why it's boastful. 

Terminology Note:
1. 丁寧語 used intransitively is specifically called 丁重語.
2. 尊敬語 is used to give/pay respect to one's out-group or to superiors in one's in-group
3. 謙譲語 is used to lower oneself or one's in-group
4. 尊大語 takes items meant for showing respect to others to direct respect to oneself in a boastful manner. 
5. 軽蔑語けいべつご does not necessarily share vocabulary with the above kinds of speech, but it is the opposite of 尊敬語. The purpose of the speech style is to look down upon or contempt. It may also be referred to as 卑罵ひば or 罵詈語ばりご. 

      You must consider diction changes that we've studied up to this point. For example, instead of あの人, use あの方. Attitude is also very important. You words can be elegantly chosen, but if your posture and attitude are coarse, you do nothing but show a crude side of yourself. 

Although there is a lot of information, this lesson only scratches the surface. The best way to learn honorifics is seeing and using it in real life. What you learn here, though, will give you the skills necessary to facilitate it. We will now study the intricacy of verbs in honorifics. 

Verbs Regular in Honorifics

          Both respectful and humble forms.

  Respectful Levels of Politeness
 R1 お(連用形)です
 R2 (連用形)なさいます
 R3 お(連用形)になります
 R4 お(連用形)下さいます (implies favor)

have four general levels of politeness.

  Humble Levels of Politeness
 H1 お(連用形)します
 H2

 お(連用形)いたします

 H3 お(連用形)もうしあげます
 H4 お(連用形)いただきます (implies favor)

Patterns' Note: These charts are not exhaustive. Others including the following.

 Pattern 尊敬語・謙譲語? Usage
 お・ご...の 尊敬語 Refined feminine speech
 ~なさる 尊敬語 Attaches to the 連用形; very honorific but normally
 seen in the command form ~なさい because people
 tend to incorrectly mix it with R3. 
 ~れる・られる 尊敬語 This is light 敬語. These are the same endings
 as for the passive.
 お...になられる 誤用 Don't use. This is wrong.
 お…なさる 誤用 Don't use. This is wrong.
 お・ご...(を)たまわる 謙譲語 Humble pattern for receiving. 
 お・ご...(を)差し上げる 謙譲語 Humble pattern for giving.

Prefix Note: ご~ is used instead of お~ in Sino-Japanese expressions. 

Base Note: Again, the 連用形 of verbs is either just る taken off for 一段 verbs or the base that ends in い for 五段 verbs. Here are two examples.

Exception Note: 為さる・なさる is the respectful form of する and 致す・いたす is the humble form of する. 

Usage Note: Think of the situations where the example sentences could be practically heard used. Who is speaking? To whom is the speaker addressing? This is all important in deciding which level of politeness is expected of you. Should a waiter have to use R3/H3, or because the guests' statuses are unknown, should he/she use R1/H1? 

  届ける (一段) = To deliver
 呼ぶ (五段) = To Call
 R1 お届けです お呼びです
 R2 届けなさいます 呼びなさいます
 R3 お届けになります お呼びになります
 H1 お届けします お呼びします
 H2 お届けいたします お呼びいたします
 H3 お届け申し上げます お呼び申し上げます

 

Speaker Variant Note: Not all speakers feel お…なさる is wrong. However, one reason why it should be avoided is that it can easily sound くどい, which is never a good thing. Historically, it has always been correct and survives in phrases like お帰りなさい and お休みなさい. Examples using this pattern any way are there to show that it is still actually used by people. It is safe to say, that it has been on the decline for some time. Oddly enough, ご…なさる is fine for whenever ご is OK.  


Examples

1. 何をお探しですか。(尊敬語) 
    What are you looking for?

2. お忘れですか。(尊敬語)
    Have you forgotten?

3. お持ち帰りですか。(尊敬語)
    Is this to-go?

4. 田中博士とお話ししましたか。(尊敬語)
    Have you talked with Professor Tanaka?

5. このところよくお会いしますね。(謙譲語)
    Our paths seem to cross often lately, no?

6. お出かけですか。(尊敬語)
    Are you going out? 

7. 謹んでお詫び致します。(謙譲語)
    I humbly apologize.

8. 心からお詫び申し上げます。(謙譲語)
    Please accept my heartfelt apology.

9. 後ほど連絡をいたします。(謙譲語)
    I will contact you later.

10. 弊社をご案内申し上げます。(謙譲語)
      I shall give you a tour of the company.

11. 私はあなたをお守りします。(謙譲語)
      I will protect you. 

 

12. 速達でお願いします。(謙譲語)
      By special delivery, please.

13. よろしくお願いします。(謙譲語)
      Please treat me well.

14. 岸田部長はご出張なさるそうです。(尊敬語)
      I hear that Chief Kishida is going to go on a business trip. 

15. 夕べ課長からこちらの本をお借りしたよ。(謙譲語)
      I borrowed this book from the section manager last night.  

Usage Note: When speaking to friends/colleagues, it is possible to use respectful speech in reference to a superior while the overall speech level is polite/plain, but not doing so isn't necessarily considered rude. You may also humble yourself when referring to a superior even when the overall conversation is in polite/plain speech.


 R4 VS H4

 R4 お...下さる H4 お...いただく
 お届け下さいます お届けいただきます
 お呼び下さいます お呼びいただきます

R4 is expressed from the favor-giver side and H4 is expressed from the favor-receiving side. The person doing the favor in R4 is marked by が or は but is marked by に (by) or から (from) in H4. In H4, this person is from whom something is received. When に is already used in the same sentence, から is often used rather than に. Remember that に can only mark whom one is receiving, not what. After all, honorifics is improper outside the realm of people. For R4, に marks who the object/favor is being directed. In either case, if there is a direct object を, is used. 

16. 私頭取{に・から}ご招待いただきました。(謙譲語)
       I was invited by the bank president.

17. 伊藤さんが(私達に)お話し下さいました。(尊敬語)
      Mr. Ito told us a story.


 Double 敬語 Alert

Remember that ~(ら)れる can be used to make sentences more polite than simple polite sentences but less polite than true honorific sentences. Using it with honorific patterns is called "Double 敬語" and is not correct. Despite this, you might hear it.

18. テニスを{なさられますか △・なさいますか 〇・されますか 〇}。 
      Will you play/do you play tennis?

Exception Note: する’s respectful form is なさる. 

Warning Note: There are other entire phrases to avoid in 敬語. Asking if your superior can do something is forbidden! Asking directly whether your superior wants to do something or is thinking something is also bad. Consider the following.

19a. 部長は、韓国語はお分かりになりましたか。X  (すごく失礼な言い方)
19b. 部長は、韓国語をお話になりますか。 〇   (礼儀正しい言い方)
        Chief, can you understand Korean?  → Chief, do you speak Korean?

20. お茶をお飲みになりたいですか。 X → お茶をお飲みになりますか。 
      Do you want to drink tea? →  Will you drink tea? 


 お...だ?

You can also see in less respectful situations です replaced by だ. This is reminiscent of the use of honorifics in a mix of polite/plain speech that was a hallmark of wife speech. Nowadays, examples like the first are simply set expressions but those like the second are still very much signature of more refined feminine speech. Even towards colleagues, many women still use honorifics in otherwise plain speech to show their own refinement. 

21. あなた、夏休みはどちらへいらしたの。(女性語)
      Where did you go for the summer? 

22. 今朝はずいぶん早く(に)お出ましだね。(女性語・女房語)
      My, you've come quite early this morning.

23. (だれだれさんが)お帰りだよ。(決まり文句)
      Such and such is going home! 

Sentence Note: This last sentence sounds like it would be said by people who run establishments with close customer relations. Places like 居酒屋 or scenes from plays come to mind.

24. お帰り! (Casual)
      Welcome home.  

Word Notes:

1. いらす is a contracted form of the respectful いらっしゃる, which is the respectful form of 行く in this case.

2. お出まし is an honorific word for 出席. Note that the honorific word itself is not feminine.


One's Boss: Humble Speech? 

  It is important that you just don't run with the title of this section. To some, including Japanese people, it is very hard to not always speak of your boss respectfully, but when you're addressing someone in one's out-group, you refer to people in your in-group, including your boss, with humble speech. This includes 呼び捨て, the dropping of titles. Again, this is in reference to your in-group.

Situation A: 岩間さん is an employee at A社. The person on the other line when he answers the phone is 高田さん of B社. 高田さん acts about whether A社長, 岩間さん's boss is available or not. The following response is what 岩間さん should say if his boss is currently out and unavailable.

25. 申し訳ございませんが、Aさんはただいま外出しております。
       I'm terrible sorry, but A is currently out.  

Using respectful speech is a common mistake by newbies in the Japanese workplace. At least it's not as bad as not using 敬語 entirely.   

Question: Is there any situation where you would refer to your boss to an out-group person with respectful speech?

Answer: Yes. Say you were in a huge company and rarely or never have a chance to work with your boss, it becomes even more natural and understandable to use respectful speech as your boss is no doubt very 偉い to regular workers like yourself. However, the person answering the phone for a message like above is probably in constant contact with the boss, so this would not work.  

ある

   ある is a little tricky in 敬語. If you have any older textbooks that are older than the 1960s, you will notice a lot of old forms listed. If you happen to read slightly old-fashioned literature, you'll also see them. This section will show you these forms for completeness, but you must understand what is used today. In the chart below, forms not listed as 古風 are still used. As for 尊敬語, the most common and important form is ございます. おありです may be used sometimes in making questions, but it's starting to become old-fashioned as well.  

 丁寧語 謙譲語 (古風) 尊敬語 尊敬語 (古風)
 ございます
 おありでございます    ございます
 おありです
 おありでいらっしゃいます
 おありになります

26a. マッチがおありですか。(古風)
26b. マッチをお持ちですか。 (丁寧語)
        Do you have a match?

27. 申し訳ございません。(丁寧語)
      I'm terribly sorry.
      Literally: I have no excuse.

28a. お釣はおありになりますか。(古風)
28b. お釣りはございますか。(現代の言い方)
        Do you have some change?

29a. 拙宅にはお炬燵がございません。(やや古風)
29b. うちには(お)こたがございません。(現代の女性語)
29c. うちにはこたつがございません。(現代の言い方)
        I don't have a kotatsu in my house.

Variant Note: お炬燵 has become out of use for many speakers. Opinions differ on its correctness, and what should be used instead depends partly on gender and partly on norms for everyone, which is represented in the notes above. 

30a. お姉様がおありでいらっしゃいますか。(やや古風; もはや使われていない)
30b. お姉様はいらっしゃいますか。
        Do you have an elder sister?

31. ご質問はございませんか。
    Do you have any questions?

~させていただきます

Scene I: You are asked by your boss to go out to a very fine dinner. You have to decline, but you don't want to be rude. You would say something like:

32. せっかくでございますが、ご遠慮させていただきます。
       It would be an honor, but I'm afraid I have to decline.

    ~させていただきます shows a feeling of humble diffidence to convey one's arbitrary action or intention while being considerate of the speaker and his or her status. As such, you should use this pattern rather than other humble patterns with certain verbs when you should recognize authority. ~ていただく implies receiving a favor. Its question forms are ~させていただけませんか and ~させていただけないでしょうか. When you want to ask someone to do something like this, you don't use the causative. 

33. 

学生:今日はすこし頭が痛いので、早めに家へ帰らせていただけないでしょうか。
先生:それはいけませんね。お大事に。
Student: Since I have a headache today, may I go home early?
Teacher: That's no good. Take care.  

34. 

学生:先生、来週の金曜日は文部科学省の試験を受けに行かなければならないので、学校を休ませていただけないでしょうか。
先生:ああ、いいですよ。頑張ってくださいね。
Student: Teacher, I have to take a MEXT exam Friday of next week, so may I skip school (that day)?
Teacher: Ah, that's ok. Good luck.  

Abbreviation Note: MEXT stands for the Ministry of Education, Culture, Sports, Science and Technology. 

35. 

学生:私にもコピーをさせていただけないでしょうか。
先生:いいですよ。でも明日までに返してください。
Student: May I make a copy of it?
Teacher: Yes, but you need to return it by tomorrow. 

36. 

Aさん: すみませんが、お写真を取らせていただけないでしょうか。
Bさん:あ、いいですよ。
A: Excuse me, but may I take your picture.
B: Ah, that's OK. 

37. 藤山先生()紹介()していただけませんか。
      Could you introduce me to Fujiyama Sensei?


When ~させていただけないでしょうか is not 100% Appropriate 

When you use this expression, it makes the listener feel as if he or she has to say yes. Therefore, it is often the case that it is not appropriate to use this towards someone like a teacher or president. In such case, using ~ても構いませんか is the best choice.  

38.  

学生:申し訳ございませんが、宿題を忘れてきたので、明日提出しても構いませんか。
先生:仕方がありませんねえ。じゃ、明日忘れないでくださいね。 
Student: I'm terribly sorry, but I forgot to bring my homework, so may I turn it in tomorrow?
Teacher: I guess there's no other way. Well, please don't forget it tomorrow. 

39. 

学生:すみません、これは日本語で言うのは難しいので、英語で言っても構わないですか。
先生:いいですけど、何でしょう。
Student: Sorry, I can't say this in Japanese, so may I say it in English?
Teacher: That's OK, but what is it?

Scene II: You're friend is speaking to you. Yet, you're irked at him. He asks if you want to go somewhere. However, you're not really interested in your friend and you say without emotion, "せっかくですが、遠慮させていただきます"。 You were extremely sarcastic and rude. This pattern is sadly effective in asking for divorce.

Scene III: As a social norm, you should always get permission before you do something, particularly in advance. However, there are those instances where you have to dig yourself out of a hole. In this case, you can use ~させていただきます.

40. いらっしゃらなかったので、代わりに転送させていただきました。
      Since you weren't here, I took the privilege of forwarding it.

    You should have gotten permission in advance, but in this case couldn't for some reason. In such case, using the following phrase may cause the listener to reluctantly consent.

さ入れ Note: Some speakers add さ even when it is a 五段 verb to the expression because it sounds more polite despite the fact that the resultant expression is technically incorrect.

41. 急がさせていただきます。 (X)
      Please let me hurry. 

Historical Note: This phrase is clearly used to be more indirect about the speaker doing something. This, though, used to not be representative of Tokyo speech honorifics. In fact, this pattern comes from the 関西地方. Yes, this is 関西弁 that seeped into 標準語 which has since become standard.

What used to be used beforehand? The humble form  of する of course--いたす. The irregular verbs in honorifics--which there are many--will be mentioned in the next lesson, but it is important to note that even still, the speech modal in discussion here has progressively been being used more than the traditional humble forms as the ultimate way of being polite. 

Many More Examples of Honorifics

 
These sentences range from rather simple expressions, some of which you've already seen before, to far more complex sentences. Take note in how conjugations, particles, and other things work in honorifics.  

 

42. 社長がお呼びです。
      The company president is calling you.

44. 田中さんとよくお会いになりますか。
      Do you often meet with Mr. Tanaka?

46. 遠慮なくお邪魔させていただきます。
      Allow me to come without hesitation. 

48. 決めさせていただきます。
      I will respectfully decide.

50. 昨日、私の英語の先生は推薦状を書いて
      下さいました。
      Yesterday, my English teacher wrote a letter of recommendation for me. 

53. すぐにお送りします。
       I will send it right away.

54. 休業させていただきます。
      We are taking off for holiday.

誤用 Note: This is a common misuse of honorifics. It should say 休業いたします or even just 本日休業 because it sounds as if they are asking permission from their customers. On the other hand, who can blame them for being extremely humble.  

58. お車はどちらでございますか。
      Which is your car?

60. 少々お待ち下さい。
      Please wait one moment.

43. 心中お察しいたします。
      My sympathies are with you.

45. 私達は伊藤さんにお話いただきました。
       We were told a story by Mr. Ito.

47. 加藤さんはいらっしゃいますか。
      Is Mr. Kato here?

49. 彼はそちらの件をお断りなさいました。
      He rejected it.

51. お手数おかけしますが。
       I hate to be a burden. 

52. 食堂は三階にございます。
       The cafeteria is on the third floor.

55a. いいえ、着なくてもよろしゅうございます。
55b. いいえ、着る必要はございません。
        No, it's alright to not wear it.

56. 窓を閉めましてよろしゅうございますか?
      Is it alright for me to shut the window?

57. 色々お世話になりました。
      Thank you for all the wonderful things that you have done.

59. この度は大変お世話になりありがとうござい
      ました。
      Thank you very much for all of your hard work.

61. このたびは音楽会の入場券をわざわざお送り下さって誠に恐縮です。
It was especially kind of you to have given me the concert ticket.


Sentence Note
: If you take out お宅 at the beginning of the sentence, the remaining phrase is still frequently used. It would also be alright if you kept it but replaced 皆様 with something like お嬢さん.
お宅の皆様 happens to be unacceptable by a lot of speakers.  


The Particle にて: The Original Form of で 

で is actually the contraction of にて. にて has the same functions as で and is seen in formal situations.    

62. 神戸にて開催かいさいされます。
      It will be held in Kobe. 

63. 今日遠足えんそくはこちらにて解散かいさんします。
      Today's field trip will be dismissed here. 

64. 昨日は、風邪にて欠席けっせきしました。
      I was absent yesterday due to a cold.